Open Invitation

Sex is expressed largely in scripted ways until we learn to identify our own unique eroticism and diversify how we express it. We may repeat the same patterns again and again until we reach an acknowledgement of personal boredom and a sense of agency in learning new ways of expressing. For many, the boredom is easy to identify, but the agency requires radical ownership of one’s body and a willingness to deconstruct one’s own preferred self-image. Fantasy provides a map of exactly what we need to emotionally engage in sexual behavior. Unfortunately, we have not been assisted along our developmental paths in discovering how our emotions significantly inform our desires. The vast majority of us have learned that sex is a function of objects and their acquisition rather than a reciprocal act built upon emotional revelation through the language of our bodies.